Do you ever find yourself reminiscing about your teenage years and what you would change or what you wish you knew? If you could go back in time, what would you tell your younger self?
As an adult, I’ve learned so much about myself and about life in general, and as much as the people in my life have taught me, there are some things that I wish I would have known… but hey, life is all about learning, right?
First of all, can we talk about makeup during the teenage years? The non-existent eyebrows and the orange ring around your face and the white neck. Not to mention the thick eyeliner and foundation covered lips, that phase was absolutely tragic. So one of the first things I would do is give myself a good old makeup lesson, and some eyebrows.
Another thing I wish I knew is that hidden illnesses, such as mental illness, are actually a real thing, and absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. During the teenage years, if you couldn’t physically see anything wrong, then there was nothing at all wrong with the person. I wish that myself along with every adult knew just how important mental health is, and that it should be focused on an talked about just as much, if not more, than physical health.
I wish I knew that dark days are also nothing to be ashamed of. It’s important to allow yourself to have these dark days too, as well as the good days. You can’t possibly be positive and “happy go lucky” all the time, you would be living a lie if you were. It’s okay to have those days where you feel negative and hate everything and just don’t want to do anything, but just remember to come out the other end. I wish I knew this because I remember all too well when during those years, you had to put up a front, and you were an easy target for bullying and being made fun of, if you showed any emotion, so you held those feelings in.
It’s perfectly okay to be you. You don’t need to do what everyone else is doing, you don’t owe it to anyone to be the someone, just to please them. Sometimes, it’s okay to cut someone out of your life if you feel like you can’t be yourself around them. It’s not selfish to put yourself first at times, because trust me, it’s easier to loose someone, than loose yourself.
The end of a relationship, is not the end of the world. Ahh remember those days where if you broke up with your boyfriend, that probably wasn’t even classed as a boyfriend, your whole world came crashing down? Ahh if only that was all we had to worry about these days….
Most men are dicks, but they’re not all the same. Oh boy are they all different, they come in many shapes and sizes, but if it’s one thing most of them have in common, most of them think with their dicks. But there is some decent ones out there, somewhere, but I’ve let go of that “all boys are the same” attitude and holding onto the hope, and my wearing thin patience, that I’ll meet a decent one at some point.
It’s okay for women to be sexually active. If fellas can give into their dick brain, and sleep around, and watch porn and all that jazz, why can’t us women? Why should we be ashamed of it? Why can’t we get a pat on the back too? Obviously, as long as it’s safe, and consensual, you go guuuurl, enjoy it. I feel like us women shouldn’t feel like we need to hold back on talking about it, I mean, one of my favourite things is having a joke around having a gossip about it with friends.
The last thing I wish I knew in my teenage years is to stop comparing yourself to others. The pressure of feeling like you have to look a certain way to be beautiful during your teenage years was horrible. Yes, promoting body confidence still needs a lot of work in this day and age, but it’s gotten much better. I wish I had have seen the amount of grorgeous women with such a variety of different body images as I do these days, especially since blogging and YouTube came around. I, and a lot of other women would have felt inspired to believe that even though they might not look like the models they see on tv and in magazines, they are also beautiful.
I could go on and on about this topic forever, but these are just a few things I wish I knew in my youngers years, and it makes me wonder how different the teenage years would have been if we did know some of these things. It’s Monday and my mind was on overdrive so this was a bit of fun to write.
I hope you enjoyed reading,
have a great week lovelies!