Hi Lovelies !
So this has been playing on my mind a lot more often than usual the past few days , so I thought I’d post about it and see if any of you can relate…
I can’t be the only one guilty of doubting myself , right ?
Do you ever find yourself focusing on your flaws a lot more than you focus on your good qualities ? I’m the first to admit I do it way too much , recently to the point where I ended up feeling so anxious that I couldn’t breathe properly , just because I was so worried that I was doing everything wrong and just wasn’t good enough.
It happens in jobs, relationships, friendships, and even around some people you might not even know. I might not admit to it to people but lately I’ve admitted to myself that I compare myself to other women far too much, and it needs to stop.
I think a lot of girls and women might be able to relate to this… Why ? Because in my opinion, from experience, these days people are quicker to judge people, women in particular, and point out something that the women herself could be self conscious about. Let’s be honest, we all have something we feel self conscious about, and people need to realise that we already see those things, and that it’ll make us feel so much worse about it if you point it out to us.
Why not be one of those people that are just as quick to say “guuuurl you look great!” ? A little compliment can go a long way, maybe even turn the girl’s day around.
In the past, I’ve found myself doubting myself so much, that I started making decisions based on what other people expected of me, rather than what I wanted myself.
How have I learned to overcome this? Start by thinking of yourself for once. Stop thinking like “oh I wish I looked like that” and comparing yourself to others, and start thinking like “I’m me, I’m never gonna be exactly like them, I can only be the best version of myself”. Always remember to give yourself a little credit and treat yourself every once in a while, even if it’s something just as simple as having a nice bath… just to give yourself a little pat on the back and say “you’re great to, keep it up”.
In the past year or so, I’ve learned a lot about myself. I’m still working on having the confidence to speak up for what I want, instead of saying things and making choices just to keep other people happy.
But one thing I feel proud of myself for working on is having the confidence to wear a bikini, and shorts, on holiday this year. Last year, I joined slimming world, and it was the best thing I ever did. The difference I saw in myself as a whole after loosing almost 2 stone was just insane. I’ll do a separate post on my weight loss if you guys would like one, let me know if you would read it. Reminding myself by writing this post and looking at the holiday pictures makes me want to get back into it so bad. I can’t even describe the feeling when I put on a bikini, and just didn’t care what anyone else thought. I’ve never, ever worn a bikini, let alone a pair of shorts, so I think you can only imagine how it felt! I need to work on having this level of confidence all the time because I felt like I could actually be the best version of me, a happier, bubbler, more confident Laura.
I didn’t have a care in the world because I realised that I have to learn to love myself, before I let someone else love me. I have to give a big shoutout to Gracie Francesca and her blog posts about body confidence for helping me realise that I needed learn to start loving myself, instead of hating the way I looked and finding ways to love the way I look, instead of more reasons to hate my body. Her body confidence inspired me to start aiming to reach the same level of confidence. Check out her blog here http://www.graciefrancesca.com/ and please show her so much love.
One of the most important things I’ve learned to do is when I find myself comparing myself to others, look in the mirror and remind yourself that you’re beautiful too. And instead of trying to look at your flaws, look at what makes you beautiful too. Because yes, it’s the truth, you are beautiful too.
Thanks for reading, hope you enjoyed !
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